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Sometimes retreat is the way forward  

When something is important to me, I can be pretty focused on making it happen.

Planning is my superpower.

But when my strategies flounder, my self-belief takes the hit.

Now I'm learning to view the situations where I've floundered a little differently.

Borrowing the viewpoint of a famous chess grandmaster, I try not become too attached to one strategy, but rather remain flexible. When something is not working, I know it's ok to retreat, having faith I've retreated to a better position.


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